So, for those of you who are newly separated, or still waiting for your divorce to be finalised, this question is aimed at you. Have you dated since your spouse has left? Do you feel you are ready? Should you? This is a question I really can not answer, and quite honestly is something that I have pondered a lot myself lately. If we look into God's word, I know we can find some answers. Although, some of you may not like what you are going to find. Please don't shoot the messenger, I am just passing along what the Father is showing me.
I truly believe that this is an issue that you must bring before the Father. Only He can tell you what is the right thing to do. And only His Spirit can convict you on the things you are struggling with. There are many situational scenarios that make this question even harder, like:
~ Did your spouse cheat
~ Are you separated
~ Are you divorced
~ Has your spouse been living with another person while separated
~ Has your spouse remarried
~ Has your spouse passed away since the separation/divorce
~ and I am sure that there are many other things to consider also. It's just late and my brain is not firing on all engines!!
Again, I cannot tell you what the right answer is, I only know what I feel is right for me. Never stop seeking the Lord for your answers. He may seem like He's not listening, but indeed my friend He is and He is working behind the scenes for your best interest. Perhaps He's even readying your next spouse!! God bless you all, and keep your focus on Christ. He won't steer you wrong.
Pastor Dana-Renee
I truly believe that this is an issue that you must bring before the Father. Only He can tell you what is the right thing to do. And only His Spirit can convict you on the things you are struggling with. There are many situational scenarios that make this question even harder, like:
~ Did your spouse cheat
~ Are you separated
~ Are you divorced
~ Has your spouse been living with another person while separated
~ Has your spouse remarried
~ Has your spouse passed away since the separation/divorce
~ and I am sure that there are many other things to consider also. It's just late and my brain is not firing on all engines!!
Again, I cannot tell you what the right answer is, I only know what I feel is right for me. Never stop seeking the Lord for your answers. He may seem like He's not listening, but indeed my friend He is and He is working behind the scenes for your best interest. Perhaps He's even readying your next spouse!! God bless you all, and keep your focus on Christ. He won't steer you wrong.
Pastor Dana-Renee
Escapism: to escape the pain we are in, finding relief in something (or someone) temporarily, to avoid living our real life.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry Dana, but this is real ... we all do it, we all have 'fleshly' patterns of coping mechanism. BUT Jesus desires us to live a REAL life with Him ... to find intimacy in HIS arms first before we find it in another. And you are right ... when we simply abide in Him ... will we realize that the issue of 'dating' is not a question at all, for we simply follow His prompts, and there becomes NO right or wrong thing for us to do.